Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



On Being Inclusive

It has taken me all week to compose myself enough to write a measured and meaningful post about the brouhaha caused on the RESOLVE Facebook page on Monday. The jist is that RESOLVE posted a question from a member, unedited and in its entirety, and the question was from a woman  looking for affordable ART […]

A Multitude of Thanks

It dawned on me when I was in the shower this morning, that, unlike after my successful cycle with my older son wherein I wrote a heartfelt note and bought a bottle of Cristal for my RE, I hadn’t properly or formally expressed my thanks this time.  And, this time, gosh, this time is so […]

Millionaire Matchmaker

Just a quick programming note that Pam Slaton, the searcher who found my birth mother, will be on tonight’s episode of Millionaire Matchmaker helping Patti Stanger find hers (did you know that Patti is an adult adoptee?).  Check your local listings, but airs on Bravo at 10 PM.

A Dawning

It has gnawed at me, why this second time parenting has been so hard for me. It just isn’t that I am older or that I have another child to parent, it is something else, too. This is hard to share as I do not want to give the wrong impression but I’m nothing if […]

For Those Touched by Adoption

I’ve written about my therapist before.  And, while I feel like I did a pretty good job of connecting the dots of my story, she really helped solidify things for me, especially when it comes to my fractured relationship with my mother and where it comes to communicating with my birth mother (and, for the […]

Presentations to Date — January, 2012 (Final)

Figures that our last active month with our agency would be a banner one. It also figures that even though it was our first double digit month in terms of presentations (and almost double the number of presentations of any other single month), we still didn’t place among any birth mother’s top choices.

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When I started this post, I was lying in bed on an ice pack, for the 4th consecutive day after wrenching my back during the cool down of my work-out on Sunday.  I am happy to report that I am vertical today, albeit still sore, but today will be my first ice pack free day […]

Whiplash Much?

My approach to blogging is to write when something is going on that I need to work through or when a musing or occurrence inspires me.  I find both the physical aspect of sitting down at my laptop to type and the mental aspect of organizing my thoughts to be cathartic.  In recent weeks, I […]

Blogger Identity Guilt (My 2nd Blogoversary!)

I started this blog, two years ago today, as a place to sort out how I was feeling after undergoing 5 additional own-egg IVFs, one DE cycle, and one DEFET, in pursuit of the 2nd child we are still trying to have.  It was a dark, emotionally tangled time.  Rarely, has this blog been directly […]

My About-Face

When we removed our ‘girl’ specification in July, 2011, we were hopeful that being shown to many more birth mothers would be the panacea to a match and eventual placement.  And, while we did see a spike in birth mother presentations by August that was sustained in the subsequent months, we have yet to place […]