Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



A Picnic

Our adoption agency held a family picnic for both those who’ve had successful placements and those waiting.  It was quite a turnout with some 200 people in attendance.  The majority of those in attendance were those who’d had placements with only a handful of prospective adoptive parents in attendance.  Because my relationship with our agency […]

The Other Side of the Big Move (and August 2011 Stats)

Ugh, ugh, ugh, ugh. It cannot be overstated just how much moving sucks. Even with great movers (as ours were), we were woefully under-prepared to move our copious amounts of sixteen years worth of accumulated stuff. First, know that I am a purger by nature. It gives me great relief to donate, pass along, sell, […]

One and Done

Even though we started our family later in life (I was 40 when I conceived through IVF/PGD and almost 41 when I gave birth), and, even though I have many IRL friends who did the same, we don’t know very many couples who went into family building with a ‘one and done’ plan.  I know […]

Expanding Our Horizons

After another dismal month in terms of birth mother presentations, it is time to regroup. We are entering our 10th active month with our agency and our gender specification has drastically reduced the number of birth mothers our profile has been shown to each month. We had valid reasons for wanting a girl. That said, […]

Stats to Date – July 2011

I got the number of birth mother presentations for July from our agency (and one day early, too).  They are again, dismal.

July – 1 (actually they showed our profile to 0 birth mothers in July, but reported the one they’ve shown so far to in August). June – 2 May – 2 April – […]

In the File Marked “You Never Know”

As we prepare to move in a month, we’ve been selling everything that we don’t intend to have or use in the new house. We had a moving sale last weekend, but some of the bigger items that didn’t sell, I put on craigslist. One of those items was a 9 X 12 rug. The […]

“There Is No Try, Only Do”

Yeah, thanks, Yoda, for that pearl of wisdom, only it doesn’t seem to hold true for human relationships. I wish I always felt as strong and tenacious as I did when I wrote this post. It seems that the further away I get from my last interaction with my mother, the better I do, but […]

Stats To Date – June 2011

Our presentations to date by month are:

June – 2 May – 2 April – 1 March – 1 February – 2 January – 0 December – 0


Healing In Moving On

The passage of time, specifically when marked by anniversaries, can be poignant.  I know when I am in the thick of something in my life that I look forward to getting far enough away from it that I can look back on it to see how far I’ve come.  Five years ago this week, I […]

At Peace

I was in a funk for a lot of 2010 and into 2011.  It was a combination of things, most notably leaving the company I’d worked for for 13 years, closing the door on my fertility and ever being pregnant again, and finally committing to pursuing domestic adoption. I hadn’t yet decided to see a therapist […]