Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



My Son

I may be wrangling with some demons over the protracted process that is domestic US adoption, but it is never far from consciousness not to wallow there for too long.  I have my son and he brings unparallelled happiness and joy to my life, daily.  To anyone reading this who is waiting to become a […]

Settling Down, Settling In

Thank you so much for your comments re: my previous post. I in no way meant to imply that wanting and buying things was equivalent to adopting. I was suggesting that my angst in waiting may stem from being wired to want what I want when I want it. And, I didn’t get into the […]

Having It All

On thing that is true about me is that I want what I want when I want it. During the upward trajectory of my career, the increase in earnings meant that I could also have what I want when I wanted it. I would not say that I buy on impulse but that I can […]

The Stats to Date – May 2011

Yes, two posts in one day.  This will be a quickie especially because it only adds to The Voice.

Our presentations to date by month are:

December – 0 January – 0 February – 2 March – 1 April – 1 May – 2

It is never lost on me that our social worker waits […]

The Voice

When I was diagnosed with an incompetent cervix (IC) at 16w6d which resulted in an emergency cerclage and 5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home, people in my life, including my husband, some friends, OB, and RE wondered how I would manage.  In my life as an executive and later as […]

The Process

I learned early on in my struggle to stay pregnant and throughout my years of ART, that one moves through the different options to having a child in one’s own time. Each person’s process is unique unto them.  Even though my path to my son was circuitous, I was unwavering in my quest for him. […]

Time Crunch

What I have learned through the purchasing of this house is never reduce your contingency removal from the standard 17 days to 10 days. Doing so has added a layer of stress and urgency to an already stressful and urgent situation. And, NEVER do so when one of those 10 days is a federal holiday. […]

The Quiet Wait (Adoption Is Not ART)

I had a follow up call with the adoption agency regarding our presentations to date.  I knew which answers I needed to get and hoped that his perspective would help with what he calls the “quiet wait” of adoption.  We reviewed our stats to date and he shared that it is dismal to see and […]

The Stats to Date – April 2011

We went live with our agency on December 17, 2010. Based on multiple conversations with them, we decided to go forward with a ‘girl’ gender specification. At the time, we were quoted this basic formula: 50% of birth mothers know the gender at the time of the match and, of those, half are having boys […]


I was watching Chaz Bono on Oprah yesterday and I was struck in much the same way that I am when someone comes out or shares some other revelation that allows them to be their most authentic self and live a congruent life. It was specifically when Oprah asked about whether he planned to undergo […]