Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



Not for Nothing

Sitting with the Info

Putting together the pieces of both of our birth families has been emotionally draining. I commented to Mel that it is similarly consuming to infertility and now has taken up that mind/heart space as I still look for answers and try to determine how to best proceed.

It feels, at times, both pragmatic and highly […]

The Short of It

These experiences around finding our birth families always seem to come with a flurry of activity.

The short of it is that, Jay, the PI, using all the data points we had (name of birth father (JJG), name of birth father’s father, birth father’s birth day, where birth father was living at the time of […]

Brief Update

The investigator will have my husband’s birth father’s contact info tonight or tomorrow morning. If he is alive, he will place a call to confirm his identity and will provide us with his contact information.

He believes he can find my birth father but it will take a bit more sleuthing. But, for free, he […]


I am feeling much better since starting meds to treat pericarditis last Friday. I am awaiting a response from my doctor to see how long I should continue meds (the doctor I saw indicated two weeks and I am one week in). Today is the first pain- & chest tightness-free days I’ve had. I can’t […]

Flurry of Activity

I didn’t mean to leave anyone hanging and I appreciate all the comments here and to me directly.   It has been a whirlwind 24 hours!  Yes, it was her.  She named my husband after his birth father.

We’ve exchanged a dozen or so emails with photos and details.  It turns out that my husband was […]

It’s Her!

Thank goodness, once again, for this space, as I have almost no one in real life to share this with. This is the response I got to my email to my husband’s possible birth mother:


It is a possibility. What questions do you have?

I never thought I […]

Update – The Search for my Husband’s Birth Mother

My husband is very detached from being adopted.   There is some bitterness there and as I’ve searched (and found) my own birth mother, he has never had interest in finding his.  At least not for himself.  I think, in part, he has wanted to protect his mother as he felt she’d be possibly hurt or […]



I have written about gratitude many times here. As I was driving the other day, Baby G in his car seat, looking at the beautiful mountains ahead of me through the warm, clear blue skies, I thought that the way I try to live my life, in conscious awareness for all that I […]

Buried Under a Mountain

Oh.my.word! This has been THE worst season of sick in all my time as a mother. It started with the stomach flu (possibly norovirus) that hit the baby, my older son, and my husband. We’d barely recovered from that when my older son got the actual flu, spiked a 104 degree fever (the highest in […]