Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



Touching Base

I wanted to touch base as 2011 is seven weeks underway and I’ve been attending to some things from this post

We have continued to work through our home study checklist. The most daunting part of the home study process, the part that is required in order to have a case worker assigned to come out and interview us, the individual questionnaire and autobiography, will be submitted tomorrow. FINALLY! I guess some wives complete the questionnaire and write the autobiography for their husbands. This ensures it actually gets done. I, however, am not that wife and have been prodding my husband toward completing his own. We did do his questionnaire interview style with me asking him the questions and taking dictation. However, he has a nuanced childhood and I felt woefully incapable of writing his autobiography. So, it has taken a lot of effort, but he’ll be done with it today and I will submit both tomorrow. PHEW!

As for the rest of the home study checklist:
-get our three recommendations underway (we have two out of three back)
-get fingerprinted
-have the DMV verify our licenses
-have employment verified
-complete a monthly income and expense statement (in process)
-provide a health history
-get updated physicals and TB tests (I need to get some blood work which I will do tomorrow morning)
-complete a criminal record statement
-complete cross racial questionnaire
-submit original marriage certificate
-schedule individual appointments with our case worker (soon)
-read “The Open Adoption Book” (in process)

On the weight loss front I am down 35 pounds and 24 inches. Weight loss into the new year has been slow and a bit of a yo-yo as I gain and shed the same 2 pounds. However, on Friday, I recommitted to tracking everything I eat, not buying foods for my son or husband that I know are trigger foods for me (damn mini marshmallows!), drinking more fluids daily, and working out more consistently (illness has plagued me and I’ve had to take two breaks but am now working out steadily again).

House wise, no new homes that we are interested in have come on the market since November. BAIN of my existence, this trying to find and buy a new house.

My husband and I have been communicating well and had a lovely sushi dinner and “state of our relationship” conversation on Valentine’s Day. We are on the same page and continue to be committed to staying connected and checking in with each other as life pulls us in sometimes opposite directions.

I’ve recently posted here and here as to the place I’m in with my friendships. However, I have really connected with one mom at my son’s preschool and in addition to chatting outside of school during pick-up, we also had a play date at the park on Friday which gave us some time to continue to get to know each other. I like her a lot.

My son will be four next month and even though I miss the newborn/infancy stage terribly, this is SUCH a great age. He is witty and perceptive and sensitive and sweet and helpful and communicative and smarter than smart. We do everything together and I don’t have to be nearly as concerned with his mood preventing us from doing something. I get why they call these the Fabulous Fours.

I am working on ideas for my tattoo. I really like the idea of a mandala but really feel that in order to have just the right one to reflect me, my journey, and be a symbol to attract energy, I need to commission a personal mandala. I did some looking on-line yesterday and found two women in Australia that design personal mandala’s but I’d like to not have to transact in a foreign country. If you missed it, I am taking suggestions for the design of my 45th birthday gift to myself, a tattoo.

We woke up to snow covered San Gabriel mountains today. It was simply breath taking and awe-inspiring, this beauty that we live in. I am looking forward to a productive week.

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