Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



Progress, Continued

I generally do not do bullet type posts but sometimes time constraints and life goings on require it. Instead of bullets, though, I want to give an update on the many things going on at the moment. First, on the adoption front, we have our first meeting with the home study social worker tonight. She has prepped us that she will be interviewing my husband and I separately, for an hour each, to review our questionnaire and autobiography and that she’d also like to interview our son. I am not quite sure what an interview with a 4 year old will look like, but we’ll find out soon enough.

Also on the adoption front our profile was shown to two birth mothers in February which is a 200% improvement from the two prior months goose eggs.

On the weight loss front, I am down 38 lbs. and 24 inches. In addition to the weight loss, I have had many non scale victories, too. I’ve had my wedding ring re-sized an entire ring size, my feet are 1/2 size smaller, I no longer shop in the “woman’s” dept or plus size stores, the smallest sized clothes I had saved all these years are now too big (hence, the aforementioned shopping), I now weigh 10 lbs less than my husband, my BMI is in the “overweight” vs obese category, and my hair, skin, and nails are all improved. I have 24 pounds to go, and, while I feel it may come off more slowly now, the end of weight loss and the beginning of maintenance is within sight.

I have continued with the turning of a new leaf and it has served me very well. There really are so many things to be continually grateful for in my life that choosing to live in gratitude is so much better for me than the alternative. It is better for my family, too.

We have been looking to buy a new home for over a year. In that time we have extended exactly one offer. Lo and behold the house we made the offer on 5 months ago is back on the market (due to relocation of the owner) and we made another offer. Only this time, we are competing with three other offers. The sellers listed the house for 55K more than they paid for it 5 months ago with NO additional improvements or upgrades. The market here in So CA has NOT changed that dramatically, but it is changing. We are in the same boat as many buyers who have been watching and waiting. I am fiercely competitive and want the house, but not at top dollar. So, like the other buyers intent on getting this house, we will counter and see what happens (it doesn’t help that one of the buyers is also being represented by the seller’s agent so we already feel that they are at an unfair disadvantage in terms of information disclosure) but each of us will have a max and someone may want to pay asking or over asking. It will all play out in the next 24 to 48 hrs. But, let me be clear with our intention: WE WANT THIS HOUSE!

We live in an area where the public schools are not great. They have historically been not great. We knew we’d be sending our children to private school. We found one elementary school in particular that we really felt would be a good fit for our son and family. In addition to K-6, they have a preschool. We applied to and just got word that our son was accepted. Phew! He is and we are going to be happy there. It is also an easy commute from the new house (you know, the one we WANT).

I started seeing a therapist to work through some of my residual feelings regarding my own adoption but also to better prepare us to be good adoptive parents. I really connected with this therapist, herself an adoptee, and it has been so validating. She gets in two weeks what some in my family have not been able to understand in 45 years. It is a tremendous relief to have found a professional that I truly believe will be able to help support me/us through this process.

We adopted a new dog a year ago and have had some obedience and behavioral challenges with her, so much so that many of my friends worried that she was the wrong dog for our family and that she was causing undo stress in our domicile. Because we are committed to her, we hired a trainer to come and work with us. We had our first meeting with her on Saturday and benefited greatly from her advice and techniques. We bought a short training series and I am hopeful that we are on our way to a more obedient and less annoying relationship with our four-legged, furry, family member.

That is about it from here for now. If you’re reading this (and with St. Patrick’s day almost upon us, if you’re Irish, even better) and would be so kind as to send thoughts out to the universe that we get this house and that our home study visit goes well, I would be grateful. The universe is listening.

May your pockets be heavy and your heart be light.
May good luck pursue you each morning and night.
~Irish blessing

8 comments to Progress, Continued

  • Mel

    I am actually a big fan of the bullet point (sans bullets) post. May the house be yours, may the therapist continue to help you work through those feelings, and may it be smooth sailing for a bit :-)

  • S

    i would really like to chat with you about adoption, but i could not find an e-mail address :) please e-mail me when you have a chance. thanks!

  • Wow! Congrats on your weight loss – I’m very impressed. Good luck on the house. I hope you get it for the price you want, I’m really bad at bargaining and so in some ways I’m glad I just moved into the house my husband had (and will die in, according to him).

  • Tireegal

    You are a hero and inspiration! I really hope you get the house, get selected by a birth mom, continue the weight loss successfully, re train your bow wow, what else? Oh yes, the therapy sounds great too. Good luck with the interviews:)

  • Sue

    YES – heavy pockets and light heart – I wish for you to have both of them….right now! :-) Well, maybe I will wish the heavy pockets get a little lighter because the money is in escrow for your new house! Really hoping it works out for you – you deserve it!

  • Awesome and most impressive weight loss/health changes – wow, you INSPIRE ME! and Oh, I am SO hoping that this house comes through for you. It’s time for you to be able to move on with your life, eh? Keeping my fingers crossed for you on a couple of fronts!

  • Loved the update! Pretty great news on all fronts…getting the house you are after would really be awesome though. Soo..sending thoughts and prayers your way. I like your new attitude..and I know that it’s not always an easy one to have on this ‘adoption journey’!

  • Luck, luck, luck ‘o the Irish be with you this week.

    And I am happy to hear that your mantra is working. Been harder for me today at least, but I’m trying, anyway. Better than sinking into Bitter Soup, anyway.


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