Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



The Password is ‘Transfer’ (NIAW Bust a Myth)

While this is my particular pet peeve, especially when the fertile community or those unfamiliar with ART comment or report on the infertile* community, I am not so sure it counts as a myth. However, since it continues to be perpetuated by the mainstream media (and, Oprah, love you as I do, can you PLEASE get it right before you sign off your show?), and because it is National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW), I am compelled to set the record straight. For anyone who has ever undergone IVF, it is more than just a matter of semantics.

A fertilized egg that develops is called an embryo. The goal of an IVF (or an FET or DE) cycle is that the resultant embryo(s) that are created in vitro will be returned to a woman’s uterus in the hopes that they will go on to create a baby. This process, of returning embryo(s), is called an embryo transfer. If all goes well, an embryo will implant. It is the single most important hope and goal of anyone who has ever undergone ART to conceive that an embryo will, in fact, implant and go on to create a fetus that will eventually result in a live birth. However, transferring embryos does not always equal implantation, although we wish it did. In fact, and depending on a whole host of factors, more often than not, the embryo does not implant.

By way of example, over 7 own egg IVFs, 1 FET, and 1 donor egg cycle, I transferred a total of 37 embryos, 3 of which implanted, and one of which resulted in a live birth. Ninety-two per cent of my embryos did NOT implant after transfer and only .03% went on to create a baby. Therefore, to say that 37 embryos were ‘implanted’ into me, would be a gross overstatement.

So, for the sake of getting it right and acknowledging that there is no guarantee of implantation with every transfer, repeat after me: “The embryos were transferred.

Class dismissed.


“`Then you should say what you mean,’ the March Hare went on. `I do,’ Alice hastily replied; `at least – at least I mean what I say – that’s the same thing, you know.’”
~Lewis Carroll

11 comments to The Password is ‘Transfer’ (NIAW Bust a Myth)

  • Hi! Stopping by from ICLW and loved your post. Totally agree of course that a transfer is not an “implantation” and got very annoyed myself any time I heard it. Then I heard and ART doctor saying it. Couldn’t believe it. So I asked. she answered that some of them refer to implanting an embryo back to the uterus with the same take as if it was a plant to plant back into the ground. This doesn’t mean it will take. So in he words they implant an embryo back into the uterus which may or may not develop routes. But it was implanted. Still not sure I like it though.
    Love, Fran

    ICLW #131

  • Brilliant post! A myth that I related to many times during my journey with IVF and FET. 32 follicles, 8 embryos, 7 transfers – NO implanatation, NO pregnancy, NO baby. Thank you participating.

    My post: Just Relax
    NIAW Blog List #30

  • Sue

    YES! Yes! Yes! Drives me nuts too. I even have clients who say it.

  • And another “Amen!” Totally a pet peeve of mine. I cannot abide by factual inaccuracies from folks whose JOB it is to inform the public. Intellectual laziness, plain and simple.

  • OMG!!!!!!!!!! I love this one!! I cringe EVERY TIME a well-educated idiot on TV says that!! It dimishes the story they are trying to tell. It is a HUGE distinction and they get it wrong so often, too often.

    Great post and great myth to bust!

  • Tireegal

    Sing it, sister! I wish I could put this on FB! why don’t you? And then I will share it?! Well put!

  • My thoughts are the same as Sarah’s. If only it were as sure a thing as putting a silicone bag into a breast or a cochlear device into the ear. “Implant” makes it sound so certain, as if a viable pregnancy surely follows.

  • If only it was so easy to “have those embryos implanted…”

  • Amen sister! That is one of my biggest pet peeves about how infertility is portrayed in the media! Between the “Octomom” coverage a few years back and more recently coverage related to my friend Carolyn Savage and her husband Sean’s book Inconceivable, I get so worked up watching TV when I hear THAT WORD! My husband teases me about it, but I totally get where you are coming from and echo serenity’s sentiments. I really wish those in positions of influence could just get this one right. Great Myth Busting! Way to go! :)

  • Wait, what? An egg isn’t implanted?

    My biggest pet peeve for certain. I want to copy this post and email it to EVERYONE.


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