Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



Time Crunch

What I have learned through the purchasing of this house is never reduce your contingency removal from the standard 17 days to 10 days. Doing so has added a layer of stress and urgency to an already stressful and urgent situation. And, NEVER do so when one of those 10 days is a federal holiday. And, NEVER do so when your lender is going to be on vacation for 7 of those days, in.a.foreign.country! In the past five days, I’ve been to four inspections (with another scheduled for Monday), to the escrow office 3 times, and have had to locate, organize, scan, and send over 100 pages of documents to our lender.

In the midst of this paper chase, I was approached about a position. I left my former job over a year ago and did not necessarily intend to go back to work until a year post adoption placement. I naively thought that a match would be imminent so it really didn’t factor into my consciousness to consider going back to work prior to placement. However, given the reality of the quiet wait, it is something I am considering now (and, by ‘considering’ I mean this particular position that I was recruited for). The role is out of my industry but up my alley so I am interested. However, somehow, in my transition through four laptops over the years, my resume didn’t make it. I had to re-create my entire career history in order to apply. It took me a week to do simply because, in addition to calls with my realtor, escrow officer, insurance agent, lender, inspector, my son decided, definitively, that this was the week he was done napping. It was hard to find uninterrupted time to recall dates, let alone the accomplishments, key responsibilities, and awards of my storied career. Thankfully, as of last night, I believe I have a final draft to submit.

And, thankfully, after weeks of yo-yoing over the same two pounds, I am down an official pound. The truth is that when I hit the 40 pound weight loss mark, I unknowingly went in to a sort of maintenance mode. I say ‘unknowingly’ because it certainly was not my intention to do so. But, little by little, I stopped tracking as diligently, starting winging it more, and before I knew it, weeks had gone by with an actual loss. The good news is that throughout these weeks I’ve been able to maintain my loss even without the diligence. That alone proves to me that I have made the necessary life style changes to keep this weight off. I make much healthier choices across the board, am not as prone to give in to emotional eating, and am able to chose to eat something instead of eating something else and NOT eat both. It is such a relief to be in this place in relationship to food and exercise.

Three days ago was my one year anniversary on Weight Watchers. There is a Weight Watchers saying, “If you kinda do it, it kinda works. If you really do it, it really works.” This recent loss has inspired me to really do it again and lose the rest of the weight.

I’ll be submitting my application for the position this weekend and hosting a baby shower. We’ll ask for repair credits on the house on Monday. Our loan is supposed to approve on Monday and we’ll remove contingencies following. It is a busy time. I am hoping for the best on all fronts.

“All human wisdom is summed up in two words – wait and hope”
~Alexandre Dumas Pères

3 comments to Time Crunch

  • Mel

    I’ve been in that kinda place for a while. Trying to kick myself in the ass to get to “really.”

    It sounds like a lot of stress, but ultimately good stress.

  • That was tiring just reading your post! ;) But seriously, that is exciting (and stressful) about your new house (I can relate as we are going through something similar right now) and your potential new job. That must have been hard and interesting to have to recreate your resume from scratch. I am proud of you for being able to maintain your weight loss and now for feeling ready to “really doing it again.” I haven’t heard that phrase before and I appreciate the sentiment. Best wishes with everything you have on your plate right now! :)

  • Just catching up with you! Congratulations on your new home. I hope closing goes smoothly for you guys. I’m sorry your adoption wait is slow. If I hadn’t forfeited my adoption with China, I would just be receiving my referral in the next batch – that’s five years from the time my paperwork was submitted! Adoption is not for the faint of heart. But, I do have two friends whose domestic adoptions were completed in less than a year recently. Granted, they both adopted boys.

    Thanks for all your insight and input on c-sections and recovery. :)

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