Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



OB Appt 13w2d

On Thursday I noticed a small raised red patch on my neck which is usually indicative of one thing: shingles.  I wasn’t completely sure, since it’s been so long since my last case and it could have been a pimple forming.  I e-mailed my OB just in case because I couldn’t recall how to take the medication during pregnancy (yes, I had an outbreak during my pregnancy with my son, too).  I never heard back from her but since I was seeing her Friday morning didn’t sweat it.

Only I should have because waiting to start the meds is always  a bad idea.  So, while the patch and blisters are maybe the size of a silver dollar, waiting allowed the virus to take hold and I feel like shit.  Shingles causes flu like symptoms and also attacks the nerves on the track they form on.  I am so tired, like can’t wake up and need to take an immediate nap, tired.  And, this patch is nearer to my jaw than they usually are so my jaw is actually sore.  At any rate, I’m on the meds now so they just have to run their course (which will probably take 10 – 14 days).

She did a transvaginal ultrasound so she could really look for a hematoma or an abruption.  She looked and looked and could not see anything that would confirm the source of the bleed.  She measured my cervix, which was a champion 4.9cm!  As is the case in early pregnancy, the placenta was near my cervix, 1.5 cm away.  Baby was head down with one arm dangling over its head and toward my cervix.  It was literally draped over the giant placenta like it was a comfy pillow.  It was very cute to see.  And, the bones in the spine, legs, arms, hands, feet, are much more discernible now.

This is TMI so please feel free to skip but I consider it a public service announcement.  She wanted to look at my cervix so did a speculum exam.  The cervix looked pink and closed with no active bleeding.  However, there was still a lot of, um remnants, from the bleed, that she cleared out.  In doing so, the spotting has completely stopped and I couldn’t be more grateful as it is quite disconcerting to see every time I peed.  I highly recommend it for one’s peace of mind.

She is supportive of my having a prophylactic cerclage placed and my appointment with the MFM is on Tuesday.  She suspects that given the significance of the bleed and the length of time I was passing clots and tissue (5 days) that he may be more amenable to it, too.  Not that he isn’t supportive of it, it’s just that I think we all agree that I don’t have classic incompetent cervix but that it is reacting to the bleeding in a way that mimics IC.  I feel so conflicted because the thought of having the procedure to place it is so unattractive to me.  I confided to my OB that I know that this is because of my PTSD associated with the emergency situation I found myself in during my pregnancy with my son and the way that those who were caring for me reacted to the shortening/funneling.  It was treated as such a crisis and they scared the hell out of me.  All of those feelings of panic and dread immediately rise to the surface when I consider placing a cerclage this time.  Just typing this has made my heart beat quicken and my hands shake.

My husband is going to join me at the MFM appointment so that we can arrive at a reasonable decision together.  He has his own feelings about my prior cerclage and resultant bed rest so having him there will be a huge support.

In other news, after all this time, I am set to meet my friend K this morning.  There have been significant developments in her life (she is now “in love” with someone she has been seeing for the last 8 weeks or so) and she was set to ask her husband for a separation.  That was before he was terminated from his job after 17 years. Should be interesting.

“Always when judging
Who people are,
Remember to footnote
The words ‘So far.'”
~Robert Brault

7 comments to OB Appt 13w2d

  • Anna

    Very glad to hear that the bleeding is now behind you though I’m sorry about the shingles, I hope that it passes quickly. I’m glad that your husband is going to the appointment too. I understand the PTSD, those crises can leave such huge damage, but you’re getting through it, already through that first trimester and heading for the middle. I hope that your meeting with K went ok and that you are in a good place to deal with any unhelpful comments that come your way,x

  • Abiding with you and sending positive thoughts your way. Best wishes for your MFM appt. I am sorry to hear about the shingles. (((HUGS))) LOVE that quote you chose to end with. So true and good to be reminded of. :)

  • I am glad you got your ‘remnants’ cleared (there’s not such thing as TMI for me :) ) and things have calmed down on that front. I have been thinking about your bleeding, and how stomach-dropping that must’ve been. Continued wishes for smoother sailing and good health. Also, much luck with ‘K’ — that’s some crazy sh*t. Very eager to hear what’s up with all that. Is it okay that it kinda pisses me off that she judged your innocent child, yet here she is the adulterous, laid-off husband-dumper? Blech.

  • Hope you’re feeling better soon… ouch :( Good luck for your appt… thinking of you and bub xoxo

  • Queenie

    I had shingles recently, so I really feel for you! Congrat’s on the baby, and best wishes.

  • Oh, shoot, it sounds like you are not having the best of times. But the ob appt was quite what you needed, huh? I love it when doctors meet expectations. :-)

    Hope you’re feeling better.

  • Meg

    Progress, slow and steady, and with unfortunate pain in the neck added. Sorry to hear about the shingles. Happy to hear that all appropriate attachments are in place. Your description of the babies position is darling.

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