Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



Update in Bullets

I have had no time to write or even consider writing. The time change threw us for a loop and still, a week later, the boys are waking up early (before 6), so by 8 PM I am ready for bed.

I am not so much a fan of laundry list posts, but, in the interest of time and to document for myself, here goes:

  • after conferring with my primary care physician, we decided to increase (double) my dose of Prozac for really no other reason than I hit some kind of plateau, feeling no better or no worse.  I continue to be so thankful that this remedy exists because I am worlds away from the dark hole I was in a mere two months ago.  There is no bickering with my husband, I’m not irritable or overwhelmed, I am hopeful and planning for the future, and I am sleeping.  Side benefit, I have not had ONE hot flash in at least 6 weeks.
  • I re-joined Weight Watchers.  Prior to doing so, I am happy to report that I lost 5# by using My Fitness Pal to track what I was eating.  Not so astonishingly, I was nearing almost 2,000 calories/day (which clearly maintains my weight) and just shaving calories off every day has helped.  I am, once again, conscious about what I’m eating.  WW was offering a promotion which I decided to take advantage of.  I’m not sure, really, if I am cut out for it any longer (just trying to find one meeting a week at a time a can commit to attending has been a challenge) but know that I need the accountability of weekly weigh-ins to get me started.
  • Baby G is awesome.  He is crawling and cruising everywhere (which, at almost 26# is helpful), had 4 teeth, and regularly sleeps from 7:30 – 5:45/6.  He mostly eats what we eat but will still have the occasional puree pouch.  We’ve done little in the way of baby proofing and something I repeat umpteen times/day now is, “No, no, no, no, that’s not for babies”.  It came, then, as a hilarious surprise, when his first words were “no, no, no, no” said in protest (he didn’t want his diaper changed or he didn’t want me to take away the door stop he was chewing on or he didn’t want to ‘walk’ with me).  My husband did not believe me so I told him to try to walk with Baby G and the baby sat down while saying “no, no, no, no”.  So cute.  Next up, ‘mama’.
  • Had my older son’s first parent-teacher conference.  I have reserved judgement as to his teacher’s abilities and what I view to be the sometimes combative way the administrators respond to benign requests, but the conference itself went well.  My son has endeared himself to her which is helpful since he has been prone to emotional outbursts and she has been working with him.  She is attuned to how smart he is and how to challenge him and we agreed on working together to develop his emotional maturity.
  • We attended the school’s annual family dinner night (a casual buffet catered by a local Italian restaurant).  We are starting to make friends, figure out who’s who, and I had a play date at a park today with one of the moms of a boy my son likes.  She is a New Yorker, down to earth, and newly appointed the Board.  She provided some context and framework that helped me piece together some of what I’ve been observing.  She is the only woman on the 10 member board which I find odd (and unacceptable).
  • Halloween was a blast.  I was thrilled that we met up with friends early enough that Baby G could join us.  My older son LOVES trick or treating (even if he doesn’t really love candy) and I love that he loves it (I could do without Halloween myself).  We go to a street in the sleepy town where my uncle lives that attracts 10,000 kids in the course of the night.  The houses are elaborately decorated, the street is closed to traffic, and it is FUN!

I miss this space, miss having the time to think about what to write, miss the camaraderie that comes from the comments I receive.  I’ve been thinking about my post-infertile life,  the ‘shoulds’ of parenting, what my next step with my birth mother will be, how we’ll navigate the upcoming holidays, what my next career might be and would like to write about all of it.

Until next time,  I must leave you with a tid-bit I learned about how to eat an apple.  We now all eat our apples this way (minus the seeds, of course) and this is what my apple waste looks like:

Who knew?

14 comments to Update in Bullets

  • That’s a posting full of insight!

  • Eu a doua reteta nu prea am priceput-o….dar prima mi se pare grozava! P.S. Esti curajoasa de faci experimente cand vine soacra! Bravo! Eu nu ma avantam din comfort zone. ))Pup

  • What really gets me is that most of these non-whites have slaughtered all the Whites in their land under the pretense that they had no business there, and now they barge in our lands claiming it as theirs…Wow, just wow.

  • Google made a couple of announcements today that actually combined for perhaps a more interesting announcement than either of them as stand-alone news items. First, Google has added a new share button to the Google Toolbar, which allows …

  • Hi Katy, thanks for your blog and your tweets, I really enjoy them. I love your quirkiness and your cats and how open and friendly you are. I am Aussie and we live in Melbourne but my husband is from Yorkshire and we lived there for a year, so I have even more of a soft spot for you! Tarrarabit! michelle x

  • Oh and by the way teen age preganncy is on teh rise again.yay abstinence only health classes. Why teach someone to drive when you can just tell them that it is not safe to drive and leave it at that?

  • Oh, Karen, you are too humble! I’m sure your house was beautifully decorated, all warm and cozy and your presents were perfect! Hope you had a wonderful holiday, my friend.

  • Considering that the government bangs on about “choice” all the time, it’s reahtr ironic that they wouldn’t consider extending that choice to Catholics or any other people who might prefer medical treatment within a pro-life environment. As the mother of three children who hopes (Deo volente) for many more, I would love to be able to consult an obstetrician or gynaecologist whom I could feel certain wasn’t talking to me immediately after having discussed an abortion with another mother. Why does “choice” only mean choice if it involves a pro-death anti-family agenda?

  • ana

    The apple thing was fascinating, but I don’t think I’d eat the seeds and all…I like your tiny bit of waste. I have a very tiny apple in my lunch today—will try this and see if I can get a few more calories out of it.

    Other than that, glad to hear things are approaching normalcy.

  • I haven’t read something as cheery as this in a long time. I am so happy for you that you got help and that it works.
    I love laundry list posts as well. :-)
    When I was a child, 8 or 10, a friend told me that it was alright to eat the entire apple, seeds included, because the core is more fibrous and helps ahem move things along, yet the stomach acids are strong enough to not let the seeds hurt your intestines. To this day, whenever I feel I need help in moving things along, I have some apples, seeds included. It may have been a lot of hogwash children usually tell each other, but so far it was pretty efficient.

  • Nice to see you back, even in bullet form! I’m glad to hear the prozac is working, and I admit that I’m a little jealous about the no hotflash thing- I woke up approximately 20 times last week with hotflashes! Ugh. I miss sleep!

    You sound busy, but content. That is absolutely wonderful! Looking forward to more updates!

  • Mel

    Okay, I watched it twice. I still don’t get what one does with that little bit of… I don’t know… flower thing that is on the bottom of the apple. Do you bite that off and spit it out?

    Now I’m going to eat an apple today just so I can try this.

  • Mel

    I actually really love laundry list posts. I don’t know why.

    I am so glad the Prozac is working, even if it needs to be fine tuned. Good for you for rejoining Weight Watchers. I would have done that instead of MFP if I wasn’t lazy and cheap :-)

    And I had no clue there was any other way to eat an apple, but now I’m going over to watch a video because that is a very cool lack of waste.

  • Very enjoyable to read this update! I look forward to sharing in the ‘fun’ of WW with you, haha. It is helping to do it this time of year, because I love-love-love fall vegetables/fruits (thanks, apple video!) and am able to fill up on heaps of roasted brussels sprouts, etc. But then, of course, there is the great temptation of things like apple pie. Drool…

    I have really been wondering how we’re going to shield our baby from our bigger son’s choking hazard toys. Our home is so small, and play spaces really have to be shared. But pretty much everything my son plays with is a teeny lego or Playmobil part, etc. I have to laugh at how much we ‘babyproofed’ our home for our first, and how that will NOT be happening for our second!

    Hope the med increase gives you that little nudge up the hill. Looking forward to reading about many of the topics you mentioned.

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