Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



It’s Her!

Thank goodness, once again, for this space, as I have almost no one in real life to share this with. This is the response I got to my email to my husband’s possible birth mother:


It is a possibility. What questions do you have?

I never thought I would be contacted since I gave him to be adopted. I didn’t have the means to raise him and wanted him to be with a family who would love him and give him everything I couldn’t. If you have a baby photo, I would know if it was him.


I responded with:

Good Morning:

Thank you so much for your response and I am sorry if this caught you off guard.  My intention in contacting you on behalf of my husband is purely from a place of compassion and interest in getting family/medical history.  I want you to know that if it is him, he was raised in a loving family in New Jersey and had a happy childhood.

His adoption information also included his original birth name which I hope you might remember.  I have included a picture of him as an infant.  If you believe that this is the right person, can you confirm for me his given name at birth then we will both know we have a match?

Again, please know that he harbors no animosity.  I am only reaching out as an advocate for him and our children.  We both had loving childhoods.  I am sure you can understand, now that we have children, how important it is for us that they have the information about their genetic families that we have been missing all these years.

Warm regards.


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