Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"



Colorado, Part I

When I reflect upon my life, I see it in four parts: before the accident, after the accident, my struggle with infertility, and my life as a wife and mother.

Most of my pre-accident childhood memories surround our yearly summer trips to my great uncle’s ranch in Colorado. My grandmother’s brother was a real American […]

Colorado, Part II

Author’s note: I have relived the events that unfolded this fateful day thousands of times in the three decades since it occurred. I have shared the story with countless friends along the way. I have written about it only one other time, in high school, when the essay assignment was to write about a life […]

The accident, Part I

As the truck was rolling over, I remember the sound of breaking glass and crushing metal…that sort of moan that metal can sometimes make when it is crumpling. I felt like I was being tossed around the cab like a rag doll. Neither of us were wearing a seat belt. I was propelled out the […]

The accident, Part II

The driver and occupants of the car that stopped to help lived well beyond my great uncle’s ranch, in a geodesic dome. There was an Indian witch doctor among them. While that seems odd to write now, it was very calming at the time. He stayed with me, along with someone else from the car, […]

The aftermath, Part I

I was situated inside the ambulance. I do not recall why (other than protocol, maybe) but neither my grandma nor great uncle were allowed to accompany me. Nor do I know how they got to the hospital since the truck we’d crashed in was the only vehicle available. Nonetheless, there I was, surrounded by emergency […]

The aftermath, Part II

I was literally tethered to my hospital bed. I did not get out of that bed or move from that room for one month. The nurses on the floor where I was confined were more than kind to me. Although I did have family coming and going (flying in from California, etc), I remember being […]