Our Journey

2002 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #1

2003 1st consult with an RE, you know, just in case

2003 Got Married (at 37 (me) & 34 (DH) years old)

2003/2004 Naturally conceived pregnancies BFPs #1, #2, & #3 and miscarriages #1, #2, #3

2005 Uterine Fibroid Surgery #2

2005 IVF #1, BFN #1

2005 IUIs #1 and #2, just because, BFN #2 & #3

2005 FET from IVF #1, BFN #4

2006 Exploratory surgery to remove scar tissue from fibroid sugery #2

2006 IVF #2 (w PGD), BFP #4

2006 Emergency cerclage for IC @ 16w6d (5 months + 1 week of complete bed rest at home ensues)

2007 Our son is born @ 38w by scheduled c-section

2007 IVF #3 for baby #2, BFN #5

2007 IVF #4, BFP #5, miscarriage #4

2008 IVF #5, BFP #6, miscarriage #5

2008 IVF #6, BFP #7, miscarriage #6

2008 DE IVF #7, BFN #6

2009 DEFET #8, cancelled, embryos don't thaw

2010 Decide to adopt domestically

12.17.10 Profile is live with our agency

November 2011 Consult with RE re: donated embryo cycle

Early January 2012 Cleared to proceed with deFET

January 2012 Freeze our profile

1.20.12 deFET begins
2.12.12 eSET of one compacted morula
2.22.12 BFN

3.23.12 deFET #2 begins
4.14.12 transfer 3 embryos (1-8 cell, 1-5 cell, 1-4 cell)
4.22.12 + HPT
4.24.12 Beta #1 = 48.4
4.26.12 Beta #2 = 125.7
4.30.12 Beta #3 = 777.8
5.11.12 1st U/S - Singleton!
7.12.12 It's a Boy!
12.26.12 C-section: Baby G is born, 9#5oz, 20.5"




Life has returned to its normal patter and even though the weather here has been drizzling and dreary for days (and so unseasonal!), moods have been good, fun has been had, life has been good.

The adoption firm we are working with is launching a new website geared solely toward birth mothers. Their current company […]

I need a hug

I am feeling particularly emotionally wrung out for a number of reasons. My battery needs to be recharged. And it occurred to me that what’s partially to blame is that I haven’t seen any of my friends socially in some time.

My friends are my surrogate family. They love me, warts and all, unconditionally. The […]


I don’t often post “day in my life” type entries, but as I emerge to rejoin the land of the living, it seems only fitting. My son came down with a chest cold two weeks ago which means that my husband and I weren’t too far behind (so much for adult immunity). There has been […]

Teasing it out

The thought has crossed my mind before and is on my mind again that perhaps I need therapy to help tease this out. I have both my BA and MA in psychology and have gone to therapy at different points in my life to help untangle thoughts and feelings usually around a particular life event […]


I still have not opened the welcome packet from the adoption agency.

As I’ve been thinking about why things have stalled, to some degree it hinges on our profile/birth mother letter. I do much better in the driver’s seat of life. I am a better picker than a pickee (go ahead, ask my husband). And […]


We sent in the first half of the Phase 1 payment. I had a nice conversation with our caseworker. She sent out a welcome packet with many forms to complete, etc. She also sent some graphic designer referrals to help us with our profile (although at $500 – $600, we’re going to give it a […]

And just like that

It feels like the decision to adopt has been 44 years in the making. And for sure it has been on my mind the last three years as I lumbered my way through umpteen additional own egg IVF cycles and a donor cycle in the hopes of having a sibling and getting a pregnancy “do […]

Where things stand

For a relatively new stay at home mom, I have a lot going on. So much so that I comment that I don’t know how I’d get any of it done if I had a full time job. I know that water seeks its level, so it stands to reason that I’ve filled my available […]

Inching forward

I still cannot believe what a laborious process processing information is. I mean, how long can it really take to make a decision and move along that path, one thing at a time? Well, clearly it takes years, and in my case, three to be exact. And, I worried all along that the longer it […]


I am going down two paths, embryo donation and domestic adoption, simultaneously, but I am finding myself leaning ever so slightly in the direction of adoption.

When we started trying again when our son was 5 months old, I very much wanted to be pregnant again and to have children close in age. The […]