The thought has crossed my mind before and is on my mind again that perhaps I need therapy to help tease this out. I have both my BA and MA in psychology and have gone to therapy at different points in my life to help untangle thoughts and feelings usually around a particular life event […]
I still have not opened the welcome packet from the adoption agency.
As I’ve been thinking about why things have stalled, to some degree it hinges on our profile/birth mother letter. I do much better in the driver’s seat of life. I am a better picker than a pickee (go ahead, ask my husband). And […]
We sent in the first half of the Phase 1 payment. I had a nice conversation with our caseworker. She sent out a welcome packet with many forms to complete, etc. She also sent some graphic designer referrals to help us with our profile (although at $500 – $600, we’re going to give it a […]
It feels like the decision to adopt has been 44 years in the making. And for sure it has been on my mind the last three years as I lumbered my way through umpteen additional own egg IVF cycles and a donor cycle in the hopes of having a sibling and getting a pregnancy “do […]
I still cannot believe what a laborious process processing information is. I mean, how long can it really take to make a decision and move along that path, one thing at a time? Well, clearly it takes years, and in my case, three to be exact. And, I worried all along that the longer it […]
I love my husband. That is neither shocking nor a revelation. However, given our tentative beginnings and now decade together, I am still sometimes surprised by just how much I love him. I won’t write a sappy, muzak-y post pontificating on his many virtues or the virtues of our marriage. But I want to share […]
I am in the due diligence phase of bringing a sibling into our family. I feel like I have been in this phase for the better part of three years, although I finally feel like we are making some progress, moving in two directions at once.
If you’ve ever dieted on a program that restricts or denies food options (no carbs, or no refined sugar, or no fat, etc) then you know the psychology of denial. The more we are told we can’t have something, the more we want it, often to the point of obsession. Tell me I can’t have […]
There are a lot of factors that come in to play re: our options, namely finances, process, wait time, whether or not I truly want to be pregnant again, potential birth mother, sibling integration, and to a lesser degree familial perceptions of whether/how we build our family. While I am still conflicted (which is a […]
Generally speaking, most couples who decide to have children either conceive without really trying (as in, unprotected sex, often enough) or “try” by tracking ovulation is some way. They get pregnant as planned and if they want another child, start “trying” again in much the same way as they did the first time. If they’ve […]